SOCIAL WORKERS

CLASS 1 - LESSON 1 - ANANOTMY OF A SOCIAL WORKER (FIGURATIVELY SPEAKING)

If you have a CPS case you have to deal with social workers. ​This class will explain a social worker's motive, mindset, values, and how to sucessfully communicate with them.

It takes a special kind of person to be able to take other people's children away. Heartless narcissists I say. These people are self-brainwashed into believing that they are "saving" children. How on Earth they do this, I don't know. I have done extensive research and I have personal experience dealing with social workers. Also, I know one personally. The one I know has a daughter who was molested by her father from the time she was 3 until she was 18. The social worker/mother did nothing because she did not believe her daughter's claims. The father ended up moving out and the two divorced anyway however, he, and his new wife, continued to have sex with the daughter when she would visit. This social worker/mother was ruthless, she even removed her best friend's children yet she couldn't "protect" her own daughter.

I have read countless testimonials, newspaper articles, watched videos and documentaries, and I have educated myself on the Child Welfare Information Gateway. The most profound thing I learned was watching Molly McGrath Tierney doing a Tedx Talk on Rethinking Foster Care. She explained very elequently, that social workers get addicted to the rush they get when they "save" a child. So literally, they are getting their fix of adrenaline and God-like power. They get a kick out of watching you squirm and they especially feel it as they carry your child away screaming, "Mommy! No Mommy! Don't let them take me Mommy! I want to stay with you Mommy!"

Did you know that Social Services/Child Protective Services funds many individuals and businesses?  In fact, an entire industry called child welfare. It also generates money and power to the entire county. That is how they get away with such things as lying, falsifying documents as evidence, commiting perjury, manipulating the system to their benefit, and ignore child abuse in foster care. When a child dies at home, they spin the story to claim a lack of funding as the blame for their irresponsibility when theywere well aware it was a truly dangerous envirnment.

Social workers, even if they seem nice, are not your friend. They are just pretending so you will open up, maybe admit that you and Baby Daddy get into it sometimes and maybe he shoved you into something once, or maybe you guys smoke a little pot now and then, maybe he takes pills without a prescription, or maybe you have left the kids alone while you ran to the store. DO NOT TELL THEM ANYTHING! I guarantee you will regret it. Tell them how responsible you both are, tell them you are proud of Baby Daddy for always putting his family first, tell them you get along great with each other and your family. Even if you suspect that it was family that called on you, make it seem like you don't suspect anyone having a problem with you, it will make the person you think called feel stupid and pathetic. Ok, maybe it won't but just grin and bear it, it will go a long way as far as keeping your case on track. Remember, social workers love to rile you up, don;t fall for it. Keep your cool at all times. 

Social workers will trap you in a corner and bluff you. I had a drug counseling program scare me into saying I drank a beer even though my 80 hour alcohol test was negative. Someone in my class made up a story and said that they smelled alcohol on my breath when in fact I had not even opened that beer yet. I didn't and I passed that test. I drank it right after the test but still, the program director and CPS collaborated and later on changed that test result. Funny thing was, they kept both papers in my file so when I subpoenaed them years later, I  caught them red handed. So, don't fall for bluffing, I ended up leaving the program because they were going to keep my case open because I said that I drank a beer to avoid having my kids removed again. I ended up moving out of our house and acted like I was abandoning my family. I told them I moved to Arizona and said to let my husband have custody. A month later our case was closed and I moved back home. I was literally only a few blocks away and watched my son during the day, CPS had no idea.

Document everything your social worker says. You can record the conversation, don't worry about consent if you are in a two-party consent state as long as you don't use it in a court. Consent is always arguable due to all the common privacy violations already in our society, no one should have any reasonable expectation of privacy no matter where they are or what they are doing. You should advise the social worker at the start of the call and simply say you don't care if they do not consent. They might hang up but then you just call their supervisor and explain that you want to record the call so you don't forget anything they say. 

That reminds me, social workers are narcissists, they have a low self esteem and they fein for compliments. Do you want your case to go smoother? Brush that ego with compliments. I know how hard that is to do. Just pretend that they are handicapped or something because basically, they are retarded. Thank them for their service and watch how their attitude changes. Try to appear sincere but you know you are being sarcastic. Your attitude should be "failure is not an option" and that you are maximising your sucesss for the benefit of your family. Tell them that you appreciate everything that they are doing for your family and that their efforts are not in vain, tell them you want them to be proud of the service they have provided to help stregthen your family.

I am not suggesting that you roll over and let them get awsy with anything. On the contrary, make them do what they are supposed to do and do it according to their own rules. If they are to provide a referral for a service as part of your case plan, do not let them delay. If your social worker gives you any excuses, call their supervisor and if they do not help you then go higher. I went all the way to the top with my complaints. Also, let your attorney know how the social workers are lagging and tell them to file a conempt of court ex-parte. We have a class on how to prepare for court following this class. 

Another good practice is to get everything in writing. Follow-up on conversations with a letter and demand a reply in writing. You could do this via email or a paper letter. Always cc their supervisor. Keep a hard copy case file and organize it in file folders. Have one for letters and emails with social workers. There may come a time when they switch workers on you and things might get delayed due to them needing time to "review the file", do not accept this excuse. Tell them you want a face-to-face meeting ASAP and bring your file. Get them aquainted with your  case personally. There is a method to their madness and delaying your case is a classic example of their attempts to make you fail. If you do not complete a class or program within a certain amount of time, they will spin it to the judge as if it was your fault and that you just are not putting in the effort to complete the case plan. They have two plans running at the same time. The clock is ticking for reunification and adoption. Especially if you have a child under the age of 3 (in California anyway) they are thirsty for those adoption incentive funds. 

Social workers can be really annoying and agravating. Just understand your goal is to get your children home and/or have your case closed. There are many tricks you can get away with, hopefully you are getting to know the system and taking advantage of its weaknesses. I suggested to someone that they get chummy with their worker by asking questions about their job as if they were interested in becoming a social worker. This worked better than I thought because she took it a step further and began taking MFT classes (Marraige and Family Therapist) and her worker was so impressed that she closed the woman's case early. I believe they even offered her a job. I am not saying to take it that far, you most likely do not want to be a social worker but you don't have to actually become one just because you took a class. 

Social workers are ruthless and despicable human beings but it is best not to make them your enemy. Later on, after your case is closed you can see them driving around town and flip them off or get them to roll down their window and ask, "Hey, are you a CPS social worker?" and when they reply, "Yes." you can call them a baby stealer and ask them how do they live with themselves. Maybe follow them around, cut them off, stop suddenly in front of them (as long as your kids are not in the car of course). Maybe honk your horn next to them at a light pointing at them and yelling, "Baby stealer!" for all to see and hear. My county no longer has the county seal on their cars anymore, probably because of me.

Beat the at their own game.

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